power of praises and acknowledgement

some people are so so stingy with praises... God knows what holds them back from praising and making other people feel good... self esteem? or maybe they are never generous with anything at all except condemnation ... could be some kind of ridiculous misconception here...

it is human nature that one needs acknowledgement though the degree varies.  it is a known fact and proven methodology which works fabulously in parenting and most importantly, in having good relationships.  i realised that with my children, it is one of the most powerful strategies.  the positive words uttered to them yields nothing but positive reaction.  praises and acknowledgement boost self esteem and bring about the feel good factor which then improves relationships and in the end brings only happiness. 

did you realise that if it is a stranger, our tongue seem to be very light to utter sorry or excuse me as well as to be polite. should a passerby came in our way, we don't shove them aside but how many times do we get irritated with our loved ones in similar instances...

in many marriages, the feel good factor doesn't exist or couples fail to bring it out or do not prioritise it.  we take for granted the most important people in our lives without whom our lives will be meaningless.  yet, we take them for granted and treat them less than what they deserve.  try some words of praises and acknowledge them for their deeds...sit back and watch their reaction. 

it was only this morning did i witness the effects of such on me.  for days i have been trying to make perfect homemade yogurt and i succeeded this morning.  that in itself gave me the satisfaction and made my day.  i served my husband the yogurt with cubes of apple and a cup of coffee... he didn't want to have yogurt in the morning but i told him to simply try it for my sake...  he did and almost finished a bowl of it.  he uttered something nice. complements... something small but it only encouraged me to be more innovative...it only encouraged me to do more for him.... maybe i have the need for acknowledgement a little more than others.  yet...the same applies.... feel good factor is so important in any relationship...

doesn't the conscience hit you hard in the head or are you simply ignorant and arrogant?